Does your mama heart feel exhausted? Are you worn out and need some encouragement? Do you feel the sting of loss this Mother's day? Do you crave to have a confident hope instead of heavy despair? Does your mama heart feel unseen because you don't have any little ones in your arms this Mother's day? If you're feeling like your motherhood is invisible, know that the God who created you sees you and knows your heart.
Is Mother's Day just downright hard? I've been an invisible mama for a year and a half now. I've walked through the darkest and heaviest seasons of my life in these past two years. But grief is odd, isn't it. It doesn't really follow any rules or timelines. Significant dates and holidays, especially Mother's Day, are challenging days to encounter when your heart feels like so much of it is in Heaven. While I can be so insanely grateful for my own mom each Mother's Day, my heart leans into the grief on a day marked to honor mothers. I've never cared for the cards and flowers. (Although, I've never met a chocolate I didn't like.)
My heart truly aches and desires to have our baby here with us. I know there is a purpose for this pain. And on Mother's Day I am so gently reminded of how Jesus has carried me through this season, just like I carried baby Avery. I know that the Lord has a purpose for the little ones he entrusts to us mamas. He has purpose for the life I carried, no matter how short. Whatever ache you feel burdened with this Mother's Day, I pray you feel peace and freedom so deep that your praise becomes your weapon against grief. I pray that this Mother's Day you see evidences of God's grace and healing for your heart.
Dear loss mama,
You are heard.
You are loved.
You are certainly not alone.
You are significant.
You are valuable.
You are called.
You are seen.
You are strong.
You are known.
You are held.
You have purpose.
You have immense impact on this world.
2 Corinthians 4:16-18
“So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal”
I had the heartfelt honor to share my story of loss and invisible motherhood on my dear friend, Sarah Rieke's Podcast, The Heart Lessons Podcast.
You can tune in to the episode here.
Blog Posts For Your Mama Heart On Mother's Day
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Letters to a Grieving Mom: Open on Mother’s Day after Miscarriage- By Adriel Booker
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A Bereaved Mother's Fight on Mother's Day- by Jessalyn Hutto
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When Mother's Day Finds You in a Hurting Place- By Adriel Booker
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Mother's Day After Miscarriage- By A Beautiful Mess Blog
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To The Loss Mom on Mother's Day- by Her View From Home Blog
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Mother's Day Is The Hardest- Brittany Lee Allen
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A Psalm For Those Who Grieve This Mother's Day- by Bless Your Heart & Home Blog
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Dear Miscarried Mamas- A Mother's Day Letter- By Kat Shmoyer
- How to Prepare for Mother's Day as a Bereaved Mother (and 10 Ways to Celebrate) - The Joyful Morning Podcast- Episode 119
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To The Invisible Mother on Mother's Day- The Morning
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Mother's Day Is Different When Your Baby Is In Heaven- Jenny Albers
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To The Moms On Mother's Day Waiting For Their Next Year- Jenny Albers
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Let Joy and Sadness Mingle -The Gospel Coalition
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When Mother's Day Is Hard- The Gospel Coalition
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Being A Childless Mother- Still Standing Magazine
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To The Mothers Hurting On Mother’s Day- Still Standing Magazine
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Did Jesus Celebrate Mother’s Day?- Luann Riley
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Blessed Are The Mother's Who Mourn And Rejoice On Mother's Day- Adriel Booker
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Mother's Day For Those Who Have Lost or Are Longing- By Adriel Booker
Bible Verses For Mother's Day
Proverbs 31: 28-30
"Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”
Isaiah 49:14-16
“Can a woman forget her nursing child and have no compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, but I will not forget you. Behold, I have inscribed you on the palms of My hands.”
Ephesians 6:1-3
"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
Proverbs 1:8-9
"Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. They are a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck."
Proverbs 6:20-21
"My son, keep your father’s command and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. Bind them always on your heart; fasten them around your neck."
Luke 1:46-48
"And Mary said: “My soul glorifies the Lord and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior, for he has been mindful of the humble state of his servant. From now on all generations will call me blessed."
Proverbs 22:6
"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it."
Psalm 127:3
"Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him."
Deuteronomy 7:13
"He will love you and bless you and multiply you; He will also bless the fruit of your womb and the fruit of your ground, your grain and your new wine and your oil, the increase of your herd and the young of your flock, in the land which He swore to your forefathers to give you."
Isaiah 66:13
"As one whom his mother comforts, so I will comfort you."
Psalm 139:13
"For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb."
1 Thessalonians 2:7-8
“But we were gentle among you, like a nursing mother taking care of her own children. So, being affectionately desirous of you, we were ready to share with you not only the gospel of God but also of our own selves, because you had become very dear to us.”
Isaiah 25:8
"He will swallow up death forever. The Sovereign LORD will wipe away the tears from all faces; he will remove the disgrace of his people from all the earth. The LORD has spoken."
2 Corinthians 1:3-4
“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.”
Psalm 71:20-23
"Though you have made me see troubles, many and bitter, you will restore my life again; from the depths of the earth you will again bring me up. You will increase my honor and comfort me once again."
John 16:22
"So with you: Now is your time of grief, but I will see you again and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy."
Revelation 21:4
“He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”
Whether you’re someone who has endured unimaginable loss, or you love someone who has, this is an intentional gift to nurture a grieving mama’s heart. This care package is a meaningful way to offer hope and encouragement while meeting a tangible need such as self-care as well as some much-needed soul-care
