These books have made a tremendous impact on my life after the days, weeks, and years following the loss of our first pregnancy. I get teary thinking about how there didn’t used to be this many accessible resources in this baby loss community, and I am just blown away by the beautiful authors that have poured out their hearts on these pages to make each of us feel less alone in our journey.
In our miscarriage care packages, we include a little resource guide with a list of songs and book recommendations. These are some of my all-time-favorites to come back to and read often. There’s something so encouraging to read someone’s story and see evidence of God unfolding beauty out of ashes.
Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss
by Adriel Booker
Grace Like Scarlett will help you:
Held: 31 Biblical Reflections on God's Comfort and Care in the Sorrow of Miscarriage
by Abbey Wedgeworth
Using Psalm 139, Abbey Wedgeworth walks alongside women suffering the heartbreak of miscarriage. Having experienced the sorrow of miscarriage herself, she acknowledges the isolation commonly felt and the impact that such an experience can have on faith.
I Will Carry You: The Sacred Dance of Grief and Joy
by Angie Smith
In 2008, Angie Smith and her husband Todd (lead singer of the group Selah) learned through ultrasound that their fourth daughter had conditions making her “incompatible with life.” Advised to terminate the pregnancy, the Smiths chose instead to carry this child and allow room for a miracle. That miracle came the day they met Audrey Caroline and got the chance to love her for the precious two-and-a-half hours she lived on earth.
Unexpecting: Real Talk on Pregnancy Loss
by Rachel Lewis
When your baby dies, you find yourself in a life you never expected. And even though pregnancy and infant loss are common, they're not common to you. Instead, you feel like a stranger in your own body, surrounded by well-meaning people who often don't know how to support you.
Sunlight in December: A Mother’s Story of Finding the Goodness of God in the Storm of Grief
by Kristin Hernandez
If God is good, why is there so much suffering in the world?
Holding On to Hope: A Pathway through Suffering to the Heart of God
by Nancy Guthrie
We can never plan for the unexpected turns of this life that sometimes lead to great personal suffering. Sometimes that suffering can overshadow everything and threaten to pull us under. Nancy Guthrie knows what it is to be plunged into life’s abyss. Framing her own story of staggering loss and soaring hope with the biblical story of Job, she takes you by the hand and guides you on a pathway through pain—straight to the heart of God. Holding On to Hope offers an uplifting perspective, not only for those experiencing monumental loss, but for anyone going through difficulty and failure. (Includes an 8-week study on the book of Job for readers who want to dig deeper into what the Bible says about dealing with suffering and grief.)
Loved Baby: 31 Devotions Helping You Grieve and Cherish Your Child after Pregnancy Loss – A Devotional Book on How to Cope, Mourn and Heal after Losing a Baby
by Sarah Philpott
Close to one in four American women experience the silent grief of pregnancy loss. Loved Baby offers much-needed support to women in the middle of psychological and physiological grief as a result of losing an unborn child through miscarriage, stillbirth, or ectopic pregnancy loss.
Grieving the Child I Never Knew: A Devotional for Comfort in the Loss of Your Unborn or Newly Born Child
by Kathe Wunnenberg
When the anticipation of your child's birth turns into the grief of miscarriage, tubal pregnancy, stillbirth, or early infant death, no words can ease your loss. But there is strength and encouragement in the wisdom of others who have been there and found that God's comfort is real. Grieving the Child I Never Knew is a warm, encouraging, and truly helpful devotional for anyone experiencing the terrible loss of a baby.
Surviving Sorrow: A Mother's Guide to Living with Loss
by Kim Erickson
When Kim’s three-year-old son tragically passed away, she found plenty of resources on grieving. She says what she really needed, though, "was someone who would give me advice for living, not just grieving . . . How do I get through the grocery store without crying? What do I do with my son’s things? When will my mind stop replaying the emergency room scene?"
I Had A Miscarriage: A memoir, A movement
by Jessica Zucker
The Baby Loss Guide: Practical and compassionate support with a day-by-day resource to navigate the path of grief
by Zoe Clark-Coates
Written by one of the world's leading baby loss support experts, The Baby Loss Guide is designed to help you navigate this complex issue. Whether you have personally encountered loss, or are supporting people through this harrowing time, this book provides practical and compassionate advice.
At a Loss: Finding Your Way After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death
by Donna Rothert
If you’ve experienced miscarriage, stillbirth, termination of pregnancy due to health risk or abnormality, or death in the first year of your baby’s life, you’re not alone. Life after these losses can be heartbreaking, confusing, and lonely. Family, friends, and medical professionals may minimize your loss or say “You can always try again.” Written by a psychologist who experienced two pregnancy losses herself, At a Loss offers thirty essays on the thoughts, feelings, and struggles that come along with losing a pregnancy or baby. Whether you are early in a crisis of grief or exploring the loss years afterward, you will find self-compassion, healing, and new ways to make meaning of your loss.
The Miscarriage Map: What To Expect When You Are No Longer Expecting
by Dr. Sunita Osborn and Catherine Knepper
It’s OK You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand
by Megan Devine
In It’s OK That You’re Not OK, Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we try to help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides―as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner―Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, "happy" life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it. In this compelling and heartful book, you’ll learn:
What Was Lost: A Christian Journey through Miscarriage
by Elise Erikson Barrett
Holding on to Love After You've Lost a Baby: The 5 Love Languages® for Grieving Parents
by Gary Chapman
Losing a child is among the most tragic experiences one can face. The crushing grief puts immense strain on the marriage, family relationships, and friendships that few can understand. That’s why this book was written. In it Candy McVicar, a grieving mom who leads a ministry for grieving parents, and Dr. Gary Chapman, relationship expert and author of The 5 Love Languages®, team up to help couples who are facing the unimaginable.
Bright Hope: 28 Daily Devotions for Grief in Light of the Gospel
by Erin Cushman
Bright Hope: 28 Daily Devotions for Grief in Light of the Gospel is written to give hope and encouragement to those in mourning. Centered around Biblical truth, drawing on historical expressions of faith through hymns and poetry, and infused with personal experiences, Bright Hope is for anyone journeying through the lonely shadows caused by gief and toward the light of the gospel of Jesus.
Inheritance of Tears: Trusting the Lord of Life When Death Visits the Womb
by Jessalyn Hutto
In this short book, Hutto seeks to deal honestly and sensitively with the issue of miscarriage and reveal how it relates to the Word of God. She does so by answering questions like:
Hearing Jesus Speak Into Your Sorrow
By Nancy Guthrie
In this paradigm-shifting book, Nancy Guthrie gently invites readers to lean in along with her to hear Jesus speak understanding and insight into the lingering questions we all have about the hurts of life: What was God’s involvement in this, and why did he let it happen? Why hasn’t God answered my prayers for a miracle? Can I expect God to protect me? Does God even care? According to Nancy, this questioning is not a bad thing at all but instead an opportunity. It’s a chance to hear with fresh ears the truth in the promises of the gospel we may have misapplied. It lets us retune our souls to the purposes of God we may have misunderstood.
Surviving the Loss of a Child: Support for Grieving Parents
By Elizabeth B. Brown
Nothing can steal peace and joy and undermine the very foundation of someone's life like losing a child. It is devastating on a level that most of us can't imagine. Written after the loss of the author's own child, Surviving the Loss of a Child offers encouragement and hope to those who may think they will never be able to live fully after such tragedy. Bereaved parents, as well as friends, counselors, pastors, and caregivers, will find this book a source of comfort and discover coping mechanisms as they move through their grief. Revised and updated, it has short chapters that are easy to take in, perfect for people going through this difficult time.
Even Broken Can Be Beautiful: A Story of Life, Loss, and the Hope of Heaven
By Sarah Rieke
Even Broken Can Be Beautiful is the story of the author's own personal journey to find purpose in the most difficult, confusing, heart-breaking moments of life. It is the story of learning to lean hard on the God who can bring good from even the most despairing situations, an honest story of deep pain redeemed by the beauty of the cross of Christ. In this book, you, too, will uncover the sacred truth that because of Christ, even our most deeply broken places can be made beautiful.
Facets Of Grief:A creative workbook for grieving mothers
By Franchesca Cox
A creative workbook to guide grieving mothers through grief, loss and healing