Does your mama heart feel exhausted? Are you worn out and need some encouragement? Do you feel the sting of loss this Mother's day? Do you crave to have a confident hope instead of heavy despair? Does your mama heart feel unseen because you don't have any little ones in your arms this Mother's day? If you're feeling like your motherhood is invisible, know that the God who created you sees you and knows your heart.
Is Mother's Day just downright hard? I've been an invisible mama for a year and a half now. I've walked through the darkest and heaviest seasons of my life in these past two years. But grief is odd, isn't it. It doesn't really follow any rules or timelines. Significant dates and holidays, especially Mother's Day, are challenging days to encounter when your heart feels like so much of it is in Heaven. While I can be so insanely grateful for my own mom each Mother's Day, my heart leans into the grief on a day marked to honor mothers. I've never cared for the cards and flowers. (I've never met a chocolate I didn't like, though.)
My heart truly aches and desires to have our baby here with us. I know there is a purpose for this pain. And on Mother's Day I am so gently reminded of how Jesus has carried me through this season, just like I carried baby Avery. I know that the Lord has a purpose for the little ones he entrusts to us mamas. He has purpose for the life I carried, no matter how short. Whatever ache you feel burdened with this Mother's Day, I pray you feel peace and freedom so deep that your praise becomes your weapon against grief. I pray that this Mother's Day you seen evidences of God's grace and healing for your heart.
Dear loss mama,
You are heard.
You are loved.
You are certainly not alone.
You are significant.
You are valuable.
You are called.
You are seen.
You are strong.
You are known.
You are held.
You have purpose.
You have immense impact on this world.
2 Corinthians 4:16-18
“So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal”
Blog Posts For Your Invisible Mama Heart This Mother's Day
What We Wish We Could Tell You Mamas - (in)courage
An Open Letter To Pastors: A Non-Mom Speaks About Mothers Day- The Messy Middle
To All The Mamas On Mother's Day- Sarah Rieke
Why Your Mothers Day Gift is Doomed To Fail- Maw's Laws
Mother's Day Is The Hardest- Brittany Lee Allen
Let Joy and Sadness Mingle -The Gospel Coalition
When Mother's Day Is Hard- The Gospel Coalition
Being A Childless Mother- Still Standing Magazine
Mother's Day , Expectations, And What We Honor- Goings, Graces
You're Still A Mama Even After Baby Loss- Sweet Julian
Grieving Mama: Mother's Day- Gloryanna Boge
Hope For The Grieving Mom On Mother's Day- Deeply Rooted Magazine
A Psalm For Those Who Grieve This Mother's Day- Bless Your Heart And Home
12 Bible Verses For Mother's Day
Proverbs 31: 28-30 (NIV)
"Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Isaiah 49:14-16 (NASB)
“Can a woman forget her nursing child and have no compassion on the son of her womb?
Even these may forget, but I will not forget you.
Behold, I have inscribed you on the palms of My hands.”
Ephesians 6:1-3 (NIV)
"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
“Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise—
“so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
Proverbs 1:8-9 (NIV)
"Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.
They are a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck."
Proverbs 6:20-21 (NIV)
"My son, keep your father’s command and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.
Bind them always on your heart; fasten them around your neck."
Luke 1:46-48 (NIV)
"And Mary said: “My soul glorifies the Lord
and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior,
for he has been mindful of the humble state of his servant. From now on all generations will call me blessed."
Proverbs 22:6 (KJV)
"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it."
Psalm 127:3 (NLT)
"Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him."
Deuteronomy 7:13 (NASB)
"He will love you and bless you and multiply you;
He will also bless the fruit of your womb and the fruit of your ground,
your grain and your new wine and your oil,
the increase of your herd and the young of your flock,
in the land which He swore to your forefathers to give you."
Isaiah 66:13 (ESV)
"As one whom his mother comforts, so I will comfort you."
Psalm 139:13 (ESV)
"For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb."
1 Thessalonians 2:7-8
“But we were gentle among you, like a nursing mother taking care of her own children.
So, being affectionately desirous of you, we were ready to share with you not only the
gospel of God but also of our own selves, because you had become very dear to us.”